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Lagos socialite, psychologist and relationship expert, Joro Olumofin,
has taken to his Instagram page to write to Nigerian women in an
interesting and thought-provoking piece. A must read indeed!
Should Marriage be the Next Step After Youth Service / Graduation?
Which should come after graduation?: Marriage, Masters or job
hunting? Based on surveys, Direct Observation and social media polls a
lot of young Nigerian ladies who are still dependent on their parents
for (shelter, food, clothing) and have little income will rather get
married than pursue their masters or job hunt.
Is this a wise decision to make? get married or committed to
someone without fully developing your potentials , getting years of work
experience and adding extra academic credentials to your belt.
There has been an increase in young brides aged (22-25), most
interestingly the urge for young ladies to get married has drastically
increased as a result of Family pressures,wedding hashtag (#), wedding
blogs, social media gratification, societal pressures. These factors
have lit an unquenchable Fire in young ladies to have the title "Mrs"
without thinking about themselves first or what they can bring to the
table in the Union of marriage.
As a modern day Nigerian man and a professional in this field I can
confidently assert that men are more attracted to women who have
packaged and branded themselves very well, who can bring some form of
financial and backup support to the table. If you notice the first thing
your boyfriends parents always ask is "what do you do? Or what do you
intend on doing next?" Most times the response given determines their
approval of you.
In closing, this article doesn't suggest that you won't make a good
bride without a job or masters, or your marriage progressing depends on
your account balance or your doctorate / masters degree. A lot of
people are married, happy and in love while even returning to school,
starting makeup classes etc
Empower yourself first before commitment so you don't have to
depend on any man for daily / monthly handouts or pocket money. It's the
women who are financially down and occupationally inept that condone
anything from their husbands because if they talk to much they won't eat
that night.
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