Tired of dating? Want to move your relationship to the next level? Want to win over the man you
love dating? Well, if you go about it in the right
way, you’ll greatly increase the chances of
making it work out just the way you hoped it
would. Of course, your idea of what exactly the
‘next level’ is and his may be two different things.
Your idea of the next level may be marriage, to
him it may just mean living together, or vice a
versa. Make sure that when you talk about the
next level that you clearly define what exactly
that means to you.
Here are some easy steps you can follow that
may help ‘push’ things along:
1. Talk to him. Tell him what you want. Be careful
how you approach this because you don’t want to
sound whiny or needy (if this is something you
really want and you really feel strongly about it’s
easy to sound a little desperate if you’re not
careful). Again, don’t just tell him you want to
take things to the next level, be clear on what
that means to you.
2. It’s important that you don’t push the issue.
It’s great to bring it up after all, you can’t expect
him to read your mind can you? You just have to
make sure that you’re going to be able to accept
whatever he wants without getting upset. If the
two of you have been together for a while and
this topic has never come up it’s almost a sure
bet that he isn’t interested in taking things to the
next level, if he were he would have already
brought it up (of course, it’s possible that he’s
just shy or afraid to bring it up because he didn’t
know what you’d say and he got scared).
3. If he isn’t interested in making any changes
then have a mature, calm, conversation with him
and ask him to explain what he means. Does he
mean that he can see the two of you moving
forward some time in the future, but he’s just not
ready right now? Or does he mean he doesn’t see
your relationship going much further than it is
right now? These may be tough questions to ask,
and tough answers to hear, but it’s important
that you find out where he’s at when it comes to
your relationship.
4. If the two of you have the same basic idea of
where the relationship will go, you’re just not on
the same page when it comes to a time line, then
that’s actually Ok. At least you both see the
relationship heading in the same direction. If your
guy doesn’t see any future in the relationship
you’re going to have to face a really tough
decision: stay or go. Many women will stay and
think that they can change his mind, and maybe
you can, but you shouldn’t. Even if you can talk
him (or threaten him) into moving the relationship
along, is that really the best foundation for a
future? You had to force someone to be with
you? No so much, it’ll be hard but you are better
off just moving on.
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