Was I Wrong to Tell This Guy I Love Him, What Does His Silence Mean? - Lady Seeks Help

A young lady who fell in love with her male friend who has helped her immensely and later told him how she feels about him, is seeking your advise after the guy stopped calling and texting her back.

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I am a 23-year-old lady, and a university graduate. There is this guy I was studying with at campus. We became very close friends and he helped me throughout my education at the university, especially with difficult subjects like accounting and auditing. We both graduated with first class degrees from Makerere University.

 

When I was suffering from a painful abortion and heartbreak (my ex had told me that he didn’t want anything to do with me or the baby, and simply sent me money for abortion), I was desperate and had no one to turn to, but he was always there for me. He did whatever he could to cheer me up since all I could do was cry every day.

 

Gradually, I fell in love with him. However, I was not sure he also felt the same way about me. Even after graduating from university, he would call me every day to check how I was doing. He was the only male and friend I had since I had lost trust in my female friends. I felt I loved him more and more every day.

 

A month back, I felt I could not keep it anymore and told him how I felt about him, that I loved him. I expressed my feelings via text. It’s not that I am a loose woman or have the courage to chase men, but for him, I felt I had to tell him.

 

However, what hurts me the most is ever since I told him about my feelings, he has stopped talking to me. He no longer texts, calls or visits. I regret telling him how I feel every day. I’m not sure if he is dating someone, but he always told me he was single and as far as I know, he was not close to any lady.

 

I feel I have lost a good friend. Even if he doesn’t love me back, I still need him as a friend. I don’t know why he kept quiet when I told him about my feelings – he neither accepted nor rejected me. He just read the texts and didn’t respond.

 

Please, I need your advice. What does his silence mean? What should I do to bring our friendship back? I value his friendship. He was the only person I could talk to whenever I had any problem. Was I wrong to tell him how I felt? What should I do? Please help me.